Vulnerability was God’s idea. Think of yourselves the way Christ Jesus thought of himself. He had equal status with God but didn’t think so much of himself that he had to cling to the advantages of that status no matter what. Not at all. When the time came, he set aside the privileges of deity … More Not Guilty
A race begins with a single step, and so does recovery. The only way to run with perseverance is to hang on to God’s hand and let him take the lead. … More One Step. That’s It.
Anger. It roots deeply and grows quickly. The anger that results from the injustice faced in divorce or separation, makes us fighting mad. It’s straight up unfair, and the makes sense. Anger is a core emotion, a gut reaction, to feeling out of control. The more out of our control things feel, our marraige, our … More Controlling Anger in Divorce
Friends we shared choose sides. Favorite restaurants aren’t so appetizing anymore. Vacations to the lake change to someplace new. The dreams for the future die. As a result, we are hit with intense sadness. There’s no death to warrant laying it all to rest… … More Joy in the Rearview Mirror
What’s the hardest part of overcoming our problems? Admitting we have them! I know we can stop, right in the middle of whatever chaos surrounds us, and say, “Enough.” I know we can, because one night 20 years ago, I stopped right in the middle of the mess I was in, looked around, and … More Facing Reality, Admitting we Need Help.
Ha! This is an old saying from the Army that I still love. We used this to talk ourselves into doing something we really didn’t want to do, but that we knew we had to get through to move on. It came to mind as I was reading about surrendering the things we’re afraid of … More Where Happiness Hides
The path ahead following a crisis in our life like death, divorce, illness, job loss…you name it, it’s hard. It’s lonely. It’s full of unknowns, full of unanswered questions. How will I make it? … More Overcoming Fear, Worry, and Anxiety
Reconciliation was the topic in our DivorceCare workshop on Monday. To be clear, we weren’t pushing marriage restoration for everyone, just simply talking about ways to get to a place of civil interaction with our ex. Even that is a place that’s far out of sight for most that are in the middle of conflict; immersed in … More Civility with our Ex. Is it possible?
“If it would be good for he and his wife for her health to be restored, then it would be. ” … More Hope during Illness
All of it, every sunrise filled with new hope, is recorded in the journals that tell the zig-zag story of our healing and recovery… … More Journaling the Journey