Whatever it is that we are trying to control, let it go. Give it to God and ask for Him to handle it, to work it out, and remember that He’s got your back. We do have control over our responses in this moment. … More Staying the Course
Whether you’ve lost a close loved one, a relationship, or the life you wanted, those losses have to be grieved, and one of the side effects is anger. So, we have to find a way to express our anger that helps us heal, but doesn’t cause others the need to. … More Anger…and what to do about it.
It may be hoping a spouse will change and recommit to a marraige, and they don’t. It may be a job that we truly want and don’t get. Even though some things very dear to our hearts are denied, let’s not lose hope. … More “But why, God?”
Vulnerability was God’s idea. Think of yourselves the way Christ Jesus thought of himself. He had equal status with God but didn’t think so much of himself that he had to cling to the advantages of that status no matter what. Not at all. When the time came, he set aside the privileges of deity … More Not Guilty
A race begins with a single step, and so does recovery. The only way to run with perseverance is to hang on to God’s hand and let him take the lead. … More One Step. That’s It.
Anger. It roots deeply and grows quickly. The anger that results from the injustice faced in divorce or separation, makes us fighting mad. It’s straight up unfair, and the makes sense. Anger is a core emotion, a gut reaction, to feeling out of control. The more out of our control things feel, our marraige, our … More Controlling Anger in Divorce
Friends we shared choose sides. Favorite restaurants aren’t so appetizing anymore. Vacations to the lake change to someplace new. The dreams for the future die. As a result, we are hit with intense sadness. There’s no death to warrant laying it all to rest… … More Joy in the Rearview Mirror
What’s the hardest part of overcoming our problems? Admitting we have them! I know we can stop, right in the middle of whatever chaos surrounds us, and say, “Enough.” I know we can, because one night 20 years ago, I stopped right in the middle of the mess I was in, looked around, and … More Facing Reality, Admitting we Need Help.
Ha! This is an old saying from the Army that I still love. We used this to talk ourselves into doing something we really didn’t want to do, but that we knew we had to get through to move on. It came to mind as I was reading about surrendering the things we’re afraid of … More Where Happiness Hides
The path ahead following a crisis in our life like death, divorce, illness, job loss…you name it, it’s hard. It’s lonely. It’s full of unknowns, full of unanswered questions. How will I make it? … More Overcoming Fear, Worry, and Anxiety