It may be hoping a spouse will change and recommit to a marraige, and they don’t. It may be a job that we truly want and don’t get. Even though some things very dear to our hearts are denied, let’s not lose hope. … More “But why, God?”
Whether you’ve lost a close loved one, a relationship, or the life you wanted, those losses have to be grieved, and one of the side effects is anger. So, we have to find a way to express our anger that helps us heal, but doesn’t cause others the need to. … More Anger…and what to do about it.
Anger. It roots deeply and grows quickly. The anger that results from the injustice faced in divorce or separation, makes us fighting mad. It’s straight up unfair, and the makes sense. Anger is a core emotion, a gut reaction, to feeling out of control. The more out of our control things feel, our marraige, our … More Controlling Anger in Divorce
Friends we shared choose sides. Favorite restaurants aren’t so appetizing anymore. Vacations to the lake change to someplace new. The dreams for the future die. As a result, we are hit with intense sadness. There’s no death to warrant laying it all to rest… … More Joy in the Rearview Mirror
Ha! This is an old saying from the Army that I still love. We used this to talk ourselves into doing something we really didn’t want to do, but that we knew we had to get through to move on. It came to mind as I was reading about surrendering the things we’re afraid of … More Where Happiness Hides
The path ahead following a crisis in our life like death, divorce, illness, job loss…you name it, it’s hard. It’s lonely. It’s full of unknowns, full of unanswered questions. How will I make it? … More Overcoming Fear, Worry, and Anxiety
Reconciliation was the topic in our DivorceCare workshop on Monday. To be clear, we weren’t pushing marriage restoration for everyone, just simply talking about ways to get to a place of civil interaction with our ex. Even that is a place that’s far out of sight for most that are in the middle of conflict; immersed in … More Civility with our Ex. Is it possible?
In last night’s DivorceCare workshop we talked about how we can help ourselves heal and move forward faster by letting go of the hurts, insults, and injustices that we suffer from our former spouses’ choices. This is truly my favorite session, because it is so vital to our recovery. It’s when I finally got this … More Healing Faster with Forgiveness
All of it, every sunrise filled with new hope, is recorded in the journals that tell the zig-zag story of our healing and recovery… … More Journaling the Journey
Don’t be surprised if your child shows signs of insecurity or regression, becomes extra mischievous, uncooperative, or clingy, or seeks a lot of attention from you and others during this difficult time. Even the most amicable of separations creates an earth-shattering change for any child. … More Telling the Kids: You’re getting Divorced (ages 5 to 8)