In last night’s DivorceCare workshop we talked about how we can help ourselves heal and move forward faster by letting go of the hurts, insults, and injustices that we suffer from our former spouses’ choices. This is truly my favorite session, because it is so vital to our recovery. It’s when I finally got this that I was set free from the weight of bitterness and resentment.
We all agreed it is too much to do all at once, but as we face each incident, day by day, layer by layer, we feel better…stronger! Forgiveness isn’t forgetting, it’s just choosing not to get stuck there. We can start just by asking the Lord to help us be willing to let something go.
Forgiveness isn’t something that comes easy to any of us. Without first recognizing our own forgiveness through Christ, I don’t know how we could ever do it. With each disagreement, each loss, we have to choose it again….crazy frustrating, crazy hard. It’s in this way, though, with each choice to let go of a wrong, we move closer to our own healing and wholeness. That’s a gift we keep giving ourselves.
Have you forgiven, at least in part, someone that has hurt you? Will you tell us about it? It’s in our struggles that we really come to know God and ourselves. Your story can bring hope to someone today.
What is it you’re facing? Nobody goes into battle alone. We can stand with you. Let us know in the comments below how we can pray for you, or by submitting your story. He will fight for you.